How do you know if they are "The one"?

An exploration into relationships and "knowing"

How do you know, if you’ve found the one? 

During my time of working with hundreds of couples, and even singles, this was a question that came up often. 

Whether it be during a live event, or the good ol’ days of “Ignite” (Tully and my old relationships course for anyone new here).

I can understand why it’s SUCH a hot topic, 

Mainly in the dating world though absolutely within many marriages the question can still linger right at the back of the mind. 

Is this person MY person… for sure?

Is there someone else who may suit me better?

Is there someone else who may suit THEM better?

Will I be wasting time if I don’t decide?

How should I know?

Does the one exist? 

What if I’ve made a mistake?

I believe all these questions are valid, 

Based on society today… though I have a hunch a few hundred years ago, it was a lot less of an obsession. 

In fact, most marriage wasn’t to do with love at all and instead business arrangements within families to keep resources going. 

And the norm was to find your love elsewhere (In affairs/ etc) outside of the public eye. 

But we don’t live centuries ago, 

And though perhaps marriage was bound by business once upon a time, 

These days, the intention is love. 

And the intention is making sure they are the “right” person to create your life with. 

We all grew up in the era of early Disney, And if not us specifically, those around us did. 

Which means that there are many avenues for conditioning around love, around “finding the one”, around the honeymoon phase, and around the fireworks of what it “should” look and feel like. 

That’s the first place to start unpacking if we really want to get to the core of how to know, for sure for sure, if we are on the right path with a person. 

In this publication we’ll explore

• How media/ Disney/ conditions us into love. 

• Hot or cold relationships, Love vs chemistry

• Is it possible to get to neutral so you can see clearly?

• Compatibility

• Honeymoon, shadow and plateau phases

• How our life circumstances shape our relationship

• The impact of hormones

• Fate

• Timing

• Aligned visions 

• What equals a failed relationship

• Does the one exist?

Please forgive any grammatical or spelling errors. I try to type as I think, and often don’t proof read the publication. (Can I blame preggy brain? Yes, yes I can) 

Let’s go

Photo by Fiona Vail photography when we were in Tasmania