True Intimacy & a long type of love

A written piece & a free workshop

Friends, normally I publish on a Wednesday and Sunday, but due to some time sensitivity with part of this publication, I’m publishing an extra this week!

Here is a piece I wrote on finding a depth of intimacy - I’m sure many of you will relate. Below this word journey, I have shared a Free workshop replay link on relationships. Many of you have already messaged both Tully and I, saying how much you loved it and got pages of notes. If you’re new here, I so encourage you to go see. I’m also sharing below about Liberating Love & that enrolments are open, but not for long.

Enjoy the poetry friends xxx

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for a while there,

i thought true intimacy came from staring into your lovers eyes

even for a moment

breathing synchronistically.
perhaps crying together too.

and,

though beautiful,

though honouring of the human moment…

and absolutely holds a level of intimacy

the deep, but fleeting love

misses a layer of intimacy only known with time.

i’ve come to realise, for me

true depth of intimacy comes

when I experience

holding someone,

or being held

through heartbreaking grief

when I experience

the most proud moment

of his life

and I’m witnessed in my own.

when we hold hands

through moments of loss and disappointment

or rejoice together

as the chest lifts and lungs fill

with joy and ecstasy.

it’s the moments when

i fall in love with a new line on his face,

that perhaps wasn’t there

years before.

the intimacy of witnessing him become a parent,

and seeing his heart grow

outside of himself.

intimacy in supporting him through stressful work,

or the momentum and highlights of a career…

having been supported in that myself.

to know when to be still, in silence

attuned to the subtitles of the body, the breath.

or when to offer words.

true depth of intimacy comes,

from
traveling together,

living together,

laying together,

making love together,

crying together,

laughing together,

creating and dreaming

together,

over time.

over.

time…

because time changes someone.
and to be able to be seen

in your own metamorphis that time initiates,

to journey with someone through the most

somewhat psychedelic experience

of our lives - our lives themselves.

in order to truly even know someone,

i’d argue,

you must travel through a spectrum of life seasons, and fully experience them in their rawness of each…

just as that’s the path they take to truly know themselves.

that, to me

is a depth of intimacy,

beyond whatever a workshop may bring,

beyond what a book may shake within,

beyond it all,

to love and be loved
through all of your many lifetimes

within this one

is one of the most beautiful aspects of humanity.
to unravel and relearn
alongside another,
spirit experiencing itself.
there’s nothing like it.

to choose to walk the path of living, hand in hand

has a beauty, that’s too much for words like this.

Hello friends!

As promised, I’m here to also keep you updated on any upcoming events or ways you can be more involved. (Including a free online workshop for relationships, See below)

Many of you have been here from when

Tully O'Connor

and I ran a couples program together called “Ignite”. We worked with hundreds and hundreds of you over that time, and looking back - for me - it was incredibly fulfilling, and the amounts of conversations, tears and “ah huh” moments was big.

Since then, I stepped away to be more immersed into motherhood. I felt like I had an evolution coming that I needed to create space for in 2021.

Tully - On the other hand, went deeper into study. He spent 2021 and 2022 expanding his facilitation skills, and his knowledge and education around relationships.

Something I’m always so in awe of - is his devotion. He understands his multilayered passion around relationships and he’s incredibly connected to the root of why relationships can suffer and struggle, but ALSO how to help them truly thrive and WHY that’s so incredibly important. He has witnessed over and over again through lived experience, through his hundreds of clients, and through evidence - How feeling deeply connected is one of the top contributing factors to quality of life. He’s seen how people who find their rhythm and set their foundations up - have an on-flow effect, that melts into the quality of family, and the kids (not to mention also creating their blueprint for love and relating)… Melts into work, business and external relationships outside of a romantic one. It melts into vitality and self esteem and how we feel on a day to day basis.

Sex, Communication, Emotional Intimacy, are beyond important.

Our ability to navigate different seasons of life, with skill, grace and mostly - respect and love - is priceless. Especially when our kids are learning and watching.

Since 2021 Tully put together a NEW online couples course.

But before I share about that - Here is a FREE hour or so long workshop replay Tully did for those wanting to learn the 4 pillars of thriving relationships.

I highly recommend watching together to both learn & get a feel for Tully’s style of work. Many are really excited to work with Tully after feeling his grounded and relatable approach. It’s packed with value and I know so many of you have already enjoyed and loved it.

FREE WORKSHOP HERE

Okay, so his course - ENROLMENTS CLOSE MIDNIGHT NOVEMBER 1ST (AWST)

It’s a 4 month long ONLINE journey, available for couples around the world, and is a mix of pre-recorded professional classes AND Live QNA via zoom. Alternating between womens Live Calls, Mens Live Calls, and Couples Calls together.

Cuddle up on the couch in the evening together with a cup of tea once the kids are down for the night, watch the classes, attend the QnA’s, take notes, find yourself in deep new discussions that open you to new pathways within your live and relationship.

The way he has crafted this course, It’s structure, content, order of education, practical processes, is what I believe to be an incredibly creative process. It’s all very intentional and has been trialled over and over for amazing outcomes.

If you’d like to watch a handful of VIDEO testimonials from all sorts of couples from around the world, and read a bunch of written experiences

Click here for video and written experiences

If you’d like to view the entire program and see the modules, and what else is included

Liberating love 4 month program

A quick overview:

Module 01 - Fundamentals of a thriving relationship

Module 02 - Embodied communication

Module 03 - Your relationship paradigm

Module 04 - Nervous system regulation

Module 05 - Attachment styles

Module 06 - Overcoming the connection killers

Module 07 - Rekindling and deepening intimacy

Module 08 - The power of ceremony and ritual

BONUS

Breathwork Fundamentals

The Transition into Parenthood

And LIVE QNA classes with

1. Jema Lee (IG: @wellsome_jemalee):

The guest calls with Jema (which was a crowd favourite) are there to educate and demystify the womens menstural cycle. Our hormones dramatically effect our physiology and our physiology dramatically effects our ability to communicate and be intimate. Gaining a deeper understanding of this topic is a GAME CHANGER for relationships.

2. Cam Fraser (IG: @thecamfraser): Australia’s leading mens sexologist.

A live call with the men educating on the topic of sex, intimacy and pleasure. Exploring these topics through the lens of relationship with self and with our partner.

3. Melissa Vranjes (IG: @melissavranjes): 

A call with the women educating on the topic of sex, intimacy and pleasure. Exploring these topics through the lens of relationship with self and with our partner.

Feel free to let me know if you have questions, or you’re welcome to Email Tully on

Tullyoconnor1@gmail.com

Tully O'Connor Instagram

ENROLMENTS CLOSE MIDNIGHT NOVEMBER 1ST (AWST)

Hope you all have a Beautiful day wherever you are in the world!

Love Kat xx