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We don't want the same thing (Couples edition)

We don't want the same thing (Couples edition)

FOR COUPLES: How do we claim our life visions and get on the same page?

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Hey team, I collaborated with Kat on this 40 minute audio on navigating "wanting different things" in relationship, and discuss getting on the same page, or what to do if you can't. In this conversation, we discuss -WHY do you want to be on the same page -When you want the same things but at different times. -Me vs You mentality and feeling like your needs won’t be met. -Practical or intuitive/creative dynamics. What do we prioritise? -What do we make it mean when the other isn’t on board our ideas (I’m not good enough/ they doesn’t love me as much/ Doesn’t respect me) -How can we “Values link” and get into a support mode for our partner and them for us. And so much more. Hope you enjoy! -
Tully O'Connor

What do you do when you’re in a relationship and your goals and dreams aren’t quite matching up…

You want the same things at different times… or different things entirely.

What happens when one of you are working towards creating a vision and pulling it into reality… and the other… isn’t that emotionally invested.

How can we stay connected in relationship, and honour each others path while also finding ways to get on the same page.


Todays Substack is a collaboration between husband and wife duo

Tully O'Connor
and
Kat River
diving into a podcast style conversation. (I’m already cringe giggling at writing this in 3rd person).

(Please also note, this is Kat cringe giggling, not Tully, but seeing as this will go out to both our communities here, I need to make that clear haha!)

If you are new here,

Tully O'Connor
is a relationship coach and has been working with thousands of couples in various capacities professionally over the last nine years.

He is sought out globally for for private coaching, and his most popular offering is his Liberating Love Relationship Mastery program. Doors have opened for enrolments but not for much longer so please take a look if it speaks to you.

Kat River
works with mothers in intuitively led, soulful business. Through unpacking creative processes and illuminating mother centric frameworks that support mothers in their businesses, while doing the inner work required to deconstruct paradigms and systems that are not supportive of raising businesses and babies side by side.

Kat worked with Tully as a relationship coach and retreat facilitator during 2017-2021 and this is a big reason why they love to join forces and have these podcast conversations shared.

They hope you enjoy this episode and believe it will be valuable to both their communities.

In this conversation, we discuss

  • WHY do you want to be on the same page

  • When you want the same things but at different times.

  • Me vs You mentality and feeling like your needs won’t be met.

  • Practical or intuitive/creative dynamics. What do we prioritise?

  • What do we make it mean when the other isn’t on board our ideas (I’m not good enough/ they doesn’t love me as much/ Doesn’t respect me)

  • How can we “Values link” and get into a support mode for our partner and them for us.

  • And so much more.

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Hope you enjoy!

Lots of love, Kat and Tully.

P.S Scroll to the bottom for Tully’s FREE 90 minute masterclass on the four pillars to a thriving relationship

Do you have anything that stood out to you in this episode? Share it in the comments below, we would love to hear from you.

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If you’re new here you can click through to

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and subscribe to Kats newsletter “The Mother Makers” or Tully’s “Love Sex and Laundry”


FREE 90 MINUTE MASTERCLASS BELOW (Scroll to bottom of this page)

Tully’s Liberating Love Relationship Mastery is open for enrolments right now.

This signature program has seen through hundreds and hundreds of couples and has helped clear resentment, stagnation, frustration, looping the same patterns and brought them into more connection, intimacy, love, understanding, and feeling connected to the same vision moving forward.

It’s seen couples who have split up, get back together and thrive with their family,

and others who have been married 25+ years have conversations and reveal parts of themselves they’ve never had before.

Come take a look at the full module break down here, and listen to the last 5 minutes of this audio podcast to hear more.

Liberating Love Relationship Mastery is a unique blend of pre-recorded professional bite size classes (Think, tea or glass of wine on the couch together once the kids are down, date night with Tul) AND Live coaching calls via zoom, alternating between women’s calls, mens calls and couples calls.

This allows couples to work through content at their own pace, pausing, discussing and integrating… and keeping their finger on the real time pulse of their relationship with support from Tully to work through things as they come up.

Click here to watch the above video

Click here to link straight through to many testimonials and hear from other couples from around the world.

For the full module breakdown and course structure Click through here:

Liberating Love Relationship Mastery

Enrolments close April 14th 2025

FREE MASTERCLASS:

If you want more to see if you resonate with Tully’s teaching style,

You can download his FREE 90minute masterclass here on the Four Pillars of a thriving relationship and work through it together.


Thank you friends for listening to todays episode. For those wanting to deep dive into this work, Tully cannot wait to work with you.

Lot’s of love, Kat and Tully.

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Tully O'Connor
Tully O'Connor is a relationship and intimacy coach & creator of Liberating Love relationship school. He's an advocate for holistic vitality & Embodiment, a retreat facilitator and podcaster in the world of thriving in fatherhood.
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