Oooooh I’m loving this so much and can relate sooooo much! I’m curious... as you mention being a generator... have you got an open inspiration centre? I have and I relate sooooo much to what you said about when you came way from socials you returned back to YOUR visions instead of all the energy from everyone else on IG!! I have found I have to have regular pauses to realign back to my visions rather than the world around me!!! Xx
Just found my way here and so happy to get to read longer stuff from you (and stuff from you in general). And so much of what you write resonates. I believe when the time is right I’ll move into here as well. I have such a back and forth relationship to instagram, but recently I’ve felt like being witnessed and seen, daring to speak more of my heart there, is aligned right now (as I experience a lot of under sharing etc). But also totally recognize lots of the patterns you’re describing. And also LOVE to flow with longer writing. Curious to see what’s ahead. 🙏
I really enjoyed reading through this. I'll have to take a moment to pause and sit with what it has brought up in me. Social media has become such a time and energy suck and I know I need to re-evaluate.
I love how you put it plainly that manifestation is most effective when you have body and mind knowledge, and that you can't experience a turned on and in the moment life if you're feeling those micro guilts... which merge to a big guilt.
deeply feeling the call to step offline for a season and inspired by your musings. i scroll so much so often and i know it’s to dissociate. how would i spend my free time if IG was not there to fill the void? do i dive in deep or dip a toe? here i go, why not just shut it off??
Ahhh... loved reading this friend. I can feel the deep exhalation in my bones! and can't fully relate to a lot you wrote about.
I'm in a position now, where 95% of my business is drummed up through Instagram, and I am working hard to change this- pushing the Google Reviews so I can be found through the big World Wide Web instead ... but it's a tricky one.
I love directing people to other places to connect with me, I've set up a little YouTube channel to share my (personal) video work, set up a little blog on my website that I tried for a while, and now I've set up Flodesk to do a little newsletter instead, which feels more personal... and people will only subscribe if they want to! It feels lovely to connect with you here... and thanks for not dissapearing completely. Love to you xxxx
Ahhhh girl this is so, so epic. Music-like to my ears. I too have been spacing myself with insta expectations! I think though, I need another break. I'm going away, alone for the first time in 2 years next week. I plan to read & write a lot... and switch off from socials then! I cannot wait to see what comes from my experience x
I’m feeling so inspired by everything you’ve said, and god damn does my nervous system need this for my own sanity - I haven’t had a social media break since I started over 14 years ago 😖
There is a huge fear of ‘missing out’ when it comes to disconnecting from the online world and it’s wild to notice myself make so many excuses as to why I ‘can’t 🫠 ..but lately I’ve been feeling so scattered by the amount of content I am constantly taking in on a daily basis that it’s gotten to a point where I don’t even know what it is that I truly desire for myself anymore - like is this even my dream or if it’s someone else’s!?
Lol. So I appreciate where you’re at right now because I am deeply craving to align myself into the same space very soon xx
A lovely read from my bed this morning as I breastfed bub. I allowed your words to be an invitation for myself to also log off the socials today and to become a witness as the day went on. Noticing every time I reached for insta and questioning why I was even going on there ... more times than not it was simply to tune out! A habit I’ve noticed formed since becoming a new mama. And something I am very much wanting to break. Yet... guilt plays a huge role here. Guilt in feeling the need to disconnect from the sensory overload that is mothering.
I resonate with the clarity you found once coming offline, I found that just being the witness to my habit of socials offered so much insight into what is going on in my mind/body.
Subtle win would be noticing the distracted reaching for social media and also knowing when it is okay to take a “break” from mothering. Which looked like napping today with bub, not doing the dishes or cooking (pre made meals for the win!), and being curious with myself, asking what I really need in the subtle moments.
Love this share, thank you for the conversation. I can relate a lot when raf was smaller too. Theres just so much time sitting and feeding that it seems to easy to get into the land of our phone.
Congrats on the nap, on the premade meals, and tuning into your body and heart today! Big deal!
Yessss. Phone land is so tempting. Even though I follow such amazing people nowadays but there’s still the distraction it causes and I have definitely been thinking about where my energy is going lately / why I am so tired. And a big factor was the time on social media and how much I allow myself to give my energy without even being conscious of it!!
Thank you for the acknowledgment... it does feel like a big deal!
Crying at this one. Feeling so much of my micro stresses and my yearning to be in the Romantic notion of my life. Every morning I’m noticing a part of my system reacting to I want to make cash. When I’m actually just wanting to be deeply in life. I’m also afraid of how much i May want a baby if I stop doing all the things. I can see how I’m using the busyness to stay in an addiction to creating when so much of me wants to slow down. Looking forward to finally meeting you next year. Probably for keezias blessing way . She’s asked me to plan it, I would love to collab with you on what this could look like, I feel you have a lot more idea of blessing way rituals than I do lol x
Oh I hear you. And especially when you love making $$ it sometimes seems like the socials is the only reliable way to get there?
"I'm also afraid of how much I may want a baby if I stop doing all the things".... Thats really big. Happy to bounce with you via zoom or Vm if you need any guidance in unpacking mum things.
Yay I'm wondering if we can DM on substack so I can get your number for Keezia organisation things. xxx
Kat, I joined you in deleting my socials. I can feel myself unwinding and relaxing… But also automatically reaching to post.. it was and still is such an addiction for me.
Gosh I am and feeling so many emotions and some loneliness from not being so ‘connected’.
I guess that shows I need to make more real world connections! More catch-ups, more heart to heats not just love hearts on posts.
WOO well done you! And, i think it will take time for the addiction to dissolve. It's similar for me too. I'm still capturing many moments I wont get to share (with camera and phone) so I'm re-learning its ok to capture, but i dont have to capture so much haha!
Tully speaks a lot about addiction and how it really needs to be replaced with something, alongside relaxing the nervous system. If you can rewire the nervous system and replace the addiction with something thats somewhat healthier for the mind body spirit, it will feel easier. Though if not, often we replace one addiction with another. So yessss to more real world heart to hearts.
You are so wonderful. I appreciate your raw honesty 💖
Big freedom for me this week was hoola hooping at the skate park whilst my partners daughter was scooting around. Teaching her about courage after a big fall and watching my partner stack it in front of us too. It was a humble moment full of lessons and open hearts.
You are so wonderful. I appreciate your raw honesty 💖
Big freedom for me this week was hoola hooping at the skate park whilst my partners daughter was scooting around. Teaching her about courage after a big fall and watching my partner stack it in front of us too. It was a humble moment full of lessons and open hearts.
I can also feel my nervous system unwinding simply by reading words in such a “real time” conversational format. It feels like much of the online world is very edited and curated to fit in micro moments (of course to snatch and grab attention) and this feels very real, raw and refreshing.
I also very much resonate with the micro guilts. I think a social media break is on the cards now. Thanks for the inspiration, in more ways than one ❤️
How interesting is that. Like just reading long writing, and like you said "real time" writing is somewhat relaxing to the nervous system.... Even for me seeing so many "long responses/real time responses" feels so nourishing. Like I guess on social media its so normal for a comment to be a few emojis or a sentence or two. I'm looking at the responses here and it actually feels like a conversation. So sexy.
This is a beautiful piece to read this morning. Sitting in my art room with coffee and classical music. I've been contemplating removing myself from social media for a time. And letting myself feel into the space it would leave me with in so many moments. I feel the habit formed with it not actually feeding me but taking me away from being more present in real life.
I love the piece around your questioning the cloudyiness/clarity of your own body when consuming others lives. Whether or not the dreaming visions are fully your own or if they are made up of mini moments you feel drawn to about others lives. Or the micro guilt going unnoticed in the moment of scrolling but settling into the body. I so resonate with that. And celebrate you with those turning into micro freedoms. I also love the noticing of your openness in your body and the time it took you to relax into your body for pleasure to be present with your husband. I feel that. And don't know that I fully articulated that in the moments when I'm having a hard time connecting or feeling good while trying to connect that my nervous system isn't settled enough for me to receive. Beautiful realization.
I love the invitation to share mini wins. Mine in the most recent moments would be - - - staying home from a friends show and choosing to rest. Being able to wake up in the early early morning and make love to my partner while listening to heavy rain fall. because I got such good sleep! A slow breakfast morning. Roasting squash for lunch later. Reading this. Inviting my daughter into my art room so she can sew at my desk while I draw pastels. Looking into canning for apple butter recipes to turn our box of fruit from market into yummy spreads to share in colder months. Inviting my sister over who struggles with mental health for a slow day of tea and art. Actually spending time with my family with my phone in another room. Saying yes to seeing friends when it feels natural and easeful. Nourishing my body. For me. And being ok with not needing anyone else to see my moments of growth or success.
Looking forward to reading your writings as they come.
Thank you for such a reply! Also can I join in your art room with classical music and coffee. That actually sounds so blissful 😻 thank you for sharing your realisations and also celebrating you in your beautiful wins!!! 🎉🎉
Ooh I didn’t realise how much I needed to read this when I started it. Thank you for sharing it again!!
Thank you for taking the time to come read xxx
Oooooh I’m loving this so much and can relate sooooo much! I’m curious... as you mention being a generator... have you got an open inspiration centre? I have and I relate sooooo much to what you said about when you came way from socials you returned back to YOUR visions instead of all the energy from everyone else on IG!! I have found I have to have regular pauses to realign back to my visions rather than the world around me!!! Xx
Mmm I’ll have to check! It’s so interesting huh!
Just found my way here and so happy to get to read longer stuff from you (and stuff from you in general). And so much of what you write resonates. I believe when the time is right I’ll move into here as well. I have such a back and forth relationship to instagram, but recently I’ve felt like being witnessed and seen, daring to speak more of my heart there, is aligned right now (as I experience a lot of under sharing etc). But also totally recognize lots of the patterns you’re describing. And also LOVE to flow with longer writing. Curious to see what’s ahead. 🙏
I really enjoyed reading through this. I'll have to take a moment to pause and sit with what it has brought up in me. Social media has become such a time and energy suck and I know I need to re-evaluate.
I love how you put it plainly that manifestation is most effective when you have body and mind knowledge, and that you can't experience a turned on and in the moment life if you're feeling those micro guilts... which merge to a big guilt.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for taking the time to read & share where you’re at! Xx
deeply feeling the call to step offline for a season and inspired by your musings. i scroll so much so often and i know it’s to dissociate. how would i spend my free time if IG was not there to fill the void? do i dive in deep or dip a toe? here i go, why not just shut it off??
Ahhh... loved reading this friend. I can feel the deep exhalation in my bones! and can't fully relate to a lot you wrote about.
I'm in a position now, where 95% of my business is drummed up through Instagram, and I am working hard to change this- pushing the Google Reviews so I can be found through the big World Wide Web instead ... but it's a tricky one.
I love directing people to other places to connect with me, I've set up a little YouTube channel to share my (personal) video work, set up a little blog on my website that I tried for a while, and now I've set up Flodesk to do a little newsletter instead, which feels more personal... and people will only subscribe if they want to! It feels lovely to connect with you here... and thanks for not dissapearing completely. Love to you xxxx
Ahhh totally hear you. Social media is a great tool especially if it’s helping you thrive more financially.
Good job diversifying too!! 😍😍😍😍
Ahhhh girl this is so, so epic. Music-like to my ears. I too have been spacing myself with insta expectations! I think though, I need another break. I'm going away, alone for the first time in 2 years next week. I plan to read & write a lot... and switch off from socials then! I cannot wait to see what comes from my experience x
Omg how bliss that will be! Have the actual best time 🥲🥰🥰🥰🥰
I’m feeling so inspired by everything you’ve said, and god damn does my nervous system need this for my own sanity - I haven’t had a social media break since I started over 14 years ago 😖
There is a huge fear of ‘missing out’ when it comes to disconnecting from the online world and it’s wild to notice myself make so many excuses as to why I ‘can’t 🫠 ..but lately I’ve been feeling so scattered by the amount of content I am constantly taking in on a daily basis that it’s gotten to a point where I don’t even know what it is that I truly desire for myself anymore - like is this even my dream or if it’s someone else’s!?
Lol. So I appreciate where you’re at right now because I am deeply craving to align myself into the same space very soon xx
Mmm I’m hearing you, seems like we are walking a similar journey atm xxxx
A lovely read from my bed this morning as I breastfed bub. I allowed your words to be an invitation for myself to also log off the socials today and to become a witness as the day went on. Noticing every time I reached for insta and questioning why I was even going on there ... more times than not it was simply to tune out! A habit I’ve noticed formed since becoming a new mama. And something I am very much wanting to break. Yet... guilt plays a huge role here. Guilt in feeling the need to disconnect from the sensory overload that is mothering.
I resonate with the clarity you found once coming offline, I found that just being the witness to my habit of socials offered so much insight into what is going on in my mind/body.
Subtle win would be noticing the distracted reaching for social media and also knowing when it is okay to take a “break” from mothering. Which looked like napping today with bub, not doing the dishes or cooking (pre made meals for the win!), and being curious with myself, asking what I really need in the subtle moments.
xxoo
Love this share, thank you for the conversation. I can relate a lot when raf was smaller too. Theres just so much time sitting and feeding that it seems to easy to get into the land of our phone.
Congrats on the nap, on the premade meals, and tuning into your body and heart today! Big deal!
Yessss. Phone land is so tempting. Even though I follow such amazing people nowadays but there’s still the distraction it causes and I have definitely been thinking about where my energy is going lately / why I am so tired. And a big factor was the time on social media and how much I allow myself to give my energy without even being conscious of it!!
Thank you for the acknowledgment... it does feel like a big deal!
Crying at this one. Feeling so much of my micro stresses and my yearning to be in the Romantic notion of my life. Every morning I’m noticing a part of my system reacting to I want to make cash. When I’m actually just wanting to be deeply in life. I’m also afraid of how much i May want a baby if I stop doing all the things. I can see how I’m using the busyness to stay in an addiction to creating when so much of me wants to slow down. Looking forward to finally meeting you next year. Probably for keezias blessing way . She’s asked me to plan it, I would love to collab with you on what this could look like, I feel you have a lot more idea of blessing way rituals than I do lol x
Oh I hear you. And especially when you love making $$ it sometimes seems like the socials is the only reliable way to get there?
"I'm also afraid of how much I may want a baby if I stop doing all the things".... Thats really big. Happy to bounce with you via zoom or Vm if you need any guidance in unpacking mum things.
Yay I'm wondering if we can DM on substack so I can get your number for Keezia organisation things. xxx
Ahhh all the feels!!!
Kat, I joined you in deleting my socials. I can feel myself unwinding and relaxing… But also automatically reaching to post.. it was and still is such an addiction for me.
Gosh I am and feeling so many emotions and some loneliness from not being so ‘connected’.
I guess that shows I need to make more real world connections! More catch-ups, more heart to heats not just love hearts on posts.
So so many emotions.
WOO well done you! And, i think it will take time for the addiction to dissolve. It's similar for me too. I'm still capturing many moments I wont get to share (with camera and phone) so I'm re-learning its ok to capture, but i dont have to capture so much haha!
Tully speaks a lot about addiction and how it really needs to be replaced with something, alongside relaxing the nervous system. If you can rewire the nervous system and replace the addiction with something thats somewhat healthier for the mind body spirit, it will feel easier. Though if not, often we replace one addiction with another. So yessss to more real world heart to hearts.
You are so wonderful. I appreciate your raw honesty 💖
Big freedom for me this week was hoola hooping at the skate park whilst my partners daughter was scooting around. Teaching her about courage after a big fall and watching my partner stack it in front of us too. It was a humble moment full of lessons and open hearts.
You are so wonderful. I appreciate your raw honesty 💖
Big freedom for me this week was hoola hooping at the skate park whilst my partners daughter was scooting around. Teaching her about courage after a big fall and watching my partner stack it in front of us too. It was a humble moment full of lessons and open hearts.
Oh beautiful wins! Thank you for sharing xx
Beautifully and powerfully written Kat.
I can also feel my nervous system unwinding simply by reading words in such a “real time” conversational format. It feels like much of the online world is very edited and curated to fit in micro moments (of course to snatch and grab attention) and this feels very real, raw and refreshing.
I also very much resonate with the micro guilts. I think a social media break is on the cards now. Thanks for the inspiration, in more ways than one ❤️
How interesting is that. Like just reading long writing, and like you said "real time" writing is somewhat relaxing to the nervous system.... Even for me seeing so many "long responses/real time responses" feels so nourishing. Like I guess on social media its so normal for a comment to be a few emojis or a sentence or two. I'm looking at the responses here and it actually feels like a conversation. So sexy.
So beautiful and simple - but powerful. Thank you so much for sparking so much in me (in the peaceful liberating kinda way) xxx
Mmm 🥰🥰🥰 thank you for taking the time to read xxx
This is a beautiful piece to read this morning. Sitting in my art room with coffee and classical music. I've been contemplating removing myself from social media for a time. And letting myself feel into the space it would leave me with in so many moments. I feel the habit formed with it not actually feeding me but taking me away from being more present in real life.
I love the piece around your questioning the cloudyiness/clarity of your own body when consuming others lives. Whether or not the dreaming visions are fully your own or if they are made up of mini moments you feel drawn to about others lives. Or the micro guilt going unnoticed in the moment of scrolling but settling into the body. I so resonate with that. And celebrate you with those turning into micro freedoms. I also love the noticing of your openness in your body and the time it took you to relax into your body for pleasure to be present with your husband. I feel that. And don't know that I fully articulated that in the moments when I'm having a hard time connecting or feeling good while trying to connect that my nervous system isn't settled enough for me to receive. Beautiful realization.
I love the invitation to share mini wins. Mine in the most recent moments would be - - - staying home from a friends show and choosing to rest. Being able to wake up in the early early morning and make love to my partner while listening to heavy rain fall. because I got such good sleep! A slow breakfast morning. Roasting squash for lunch later. Reading this. Inviting my daughter into my art room so she can sew at my desk while I draw pastels. Looking into canning for apple butter recipes to turn our box of fruit from market into yummy spreads to share in colder months. Inviting my sister over who struggles with mental health for a slow day of tea and art. Actually spending time with my family with my phone in another room. Saying yes to seeing friends when it feels natural and easeful. Nourishing my body. For me. And being ok with not needing anyone else to see my moments of growth or success.
Looking forward to reading your writings as they come.
Thank you for such a reply! Also can I join in your art room with classical music and coffee. That actually sounds so blissful 😻 thank you for sharing your realisations and also celebrating you in your beautiful wins!!! 🎉🎉